The Twitter page for the Ukrainian Ministry of Defence attributed to Denisova's report: '10 reports of rape by the occupiers, including 8 children, were received from newly liberated villages in the Kharkiv region in just one hour. A report from Lyudmyla Denisova, the Ukrainian Parliament Commissioner for Human Rights, alleged mass rapes committed by Russian forces during their occupation of the region Having sexual attraction to the same sex is no one's fault and likely has been there since birth.A burnt out tank seen in a village near Kharkiv after Russian forces retreated. Some gay men believe that being married can rid them of their homosexuality. The wife has not been inadequate in any way and likely the gay husband married her because he truly cared about her. What's important to remember is that the husband's homosexuality is entirely his responsibility and has nothing to do with the wife. (If you're thinking that you can cure the gay by having your husband go to gay conversion therapy, read this.)
Hurt and even rage at having been betrayedĪnd the wife may wonder if anything was real about the partner she thought she knew so well.Many women find it much harder to accept that their husband is leaving them for another man rather than for another woman. If it turns out that a husband is, in fact, gay, the fallout can be difficult to deal with, particularly for the straight partner. Kaye advises that women "follow their instincts" when deciding whether their husband may be gay. These signs of a gay husband are designed as a starting point. A husband may be gay and display none of those signs or a husband may display these signs and not be gay. These signs a husband is gay are not meant to be definitive. His ego appears to be boosted by compliments from gay men.He makes continual homophobic comments or he makes too many gay comments in conversations.He watches porno movies with gay male scenes.He visits gay bars claiming he's there only to hang out with his gay friend(s).He admits to having a homosexual encounter in the past.He tells you about sexual abuse in his childhood/adolescence.He says he is having a "mid-life crisis" and becomes moody and depressed.He travels a lot for business and you can't track his activities.He claims that he feels "trapped" in the marriage and won't explain why.He starts to spend more time at the gym and works on changing his appearance.He spends excessive time texting people at irregular hours.You find pop-ups of gay pornography on the computer while he claims they are not his.He erases the computer history on a regular basis.He tells you that he wants you to use sex toys on him because he needs his prostate stimulated or because he likes kinky sex.You find sexual enhancers such as Viagra (sildenafil citrate) or Cialis (Tadalafil) hidden in his private hiding places, but you know he hasn't made any attempt to have sex with you.He claims he is "depressed" and will blame his depression or medication for depression for his lack of sexual desire for you.His sexual performance is more mechanical than passionate with a lack of satisfying foreplay.He is turned-off by normal sexual activity and accuses you of being oversexed, aggressive, or a nymphomaniac when you have normal sexual needs.He tries to convince you that all relationships have a decline in sex even when you've only been together for a few years. There is a decline of sexual activity early in your marriage that never picks up again.Kaye has developed the Official Gay Husband Checklist to help women know if their husbands are gay. In many cases, it is the wife, who after suspecting that something is wrong, must confront the gay husband with the evidence, and only then can honestly be achieved.īut if you're wondering, "Is my man gay," it might be helpful to know that there are signs to look for, according to Kaye. Unfortunately, it is estimated that 50% of gay husbands hide their homosexuality from their wives and don't reach this place of honesty on their own. If the husband is honest with both you and with himself (read: How Do I Know If I Am Gay? Signs You Are Gay), that is when you can truly know that he is gay.
The clearest way to know if your husband is gay is if he tells you.
If a husband is gay, it can devastate not only the relationship but the straight wife as well. Sometimes a woman may have been in a heterosexual relationship for years and yet feel something is somehow "off " and she may find herself asking, "Is my husband gay?" Many women find this question unthinkable but according to Bonnie Kaye, M.ED., an expert in women married to gay men, it is estimated that 4 million women have been, or are, married to gay men.